What I Want My Loved Ones to Know
- I wish to have my family and friends know that I love them.
- I wish to be forgiven for the times I have hurt my family, friends, and others.
- I wish to have my family, friends, and others know that I forgive them for when they may have hurt me in my life.
- I wish for my family and friends to know that I do not fear death itself. I think it is not the end, but a new beginning for me.
- I wish for my family and friends to think about what I was like before I became seriously ill, but also to think about who I’ve become in the past 15 years. I want them to remember me both ways after my death, or however they knew me.
- I wish for my family and friends to respect my wishes, even if they don’t agree with them.
- I wish for my family and friends to look at my dying as a time of personal growth for everyone, including me. This will help me live a meaningful life in my final days.
- I wish for my family and friends to get counseling if they have trouble with my death. I want memories of my life to give them joy and not sorrow.
How Nina wants to be remembered (in her own words)
Nina lived a blessed life, full of love and adventure, surrounded by family and friends whom she treasured, and who treasured her. She appreciated every moment she was here, yet was very ready to go on to whatever is next… Her muscles and bones did phenomenal things during her existence, but her nerves had tortured her for long enough. She was happy, kind, and giving. She was also bossy, stubborn, and, like most folks, she was complicated. She definitely lived life to the fullest, and believes that she will be able to watch over everyone she loves from wherever/ whatever is next. She’ll be listening when you talk to her, and she looks forward to seeing where you go. Having the opportunity to sort and organize her own death has allowed her to be her truest self until the very end – and she is hoping that one of her legacies would be that you organize and sort your own affairs.